Recently, a woman at work walked into my office and I noticed that her hair was done differently.
When I asked what she had done, her response was, “I changed my part. It was driving me crazy the way that I was wearing it so I changed it.”
It was always obvious that it drove her crazy because she was always brushing it off of her face. But it took her years to change it.
“Isn’t it funny how we allow things to drive us crazy before we make a change?” I asked.
How obvious is it that something as simple as changing our part can eliminate what bothers us in life…
Another woman piped up and said “I could NEVER change my part!”
“Why not?” I asked
“I just couldn’t” she replied “It won’t change”
“When have you tried…..”
And a third woman added, “I wouldn’t look good if I changed mine”
This conversation about changing our hair got me thinking. Why is it that we are so afraid of change? We continue to do things the same way even though they drive us crazy….. such as, constantly brushing the hair off of our face, instead of changing the way that we wear our hair.
This conversation was a symbol for life. Why is it that we tolerate what bother us? Probably because the fear of change is so great that we would rather deal with what we know rather than face an unknown. And, why do we assume the unknown is worse than what we know?
We often think, “What if I make the wrong choice?”
There is no such thing as the wrong choice. Every choice is the right one in our life’s journey.
I read something recently:
“Fate makes the map, but destiny is determined by the manner in wish you engage your journey.”
Each choice determines our destiny. There is no wrong choice. Although some of our choices may make our journey seem more difficult, but what does that really mean? I think that when the journey is difficult it is then that we learn the most.
Having the conversation about how to wear our hair, made me realize how much we limit ourselves. Who says you wouldn’t look good if you changed your hair? Who says your part can’t be changed? These are beliefs that we put upon ourselves that limit us from changing. If we are right, then there is no alternative.
My coach recently asked me to think about how important it is to be right? As much as I didn’t like the conversation at the time, I had to think about what she said and choose to begin to let go of the illusion that there is a right or wrong. There is no right or wrong. There is only an opinion. Whether or not someone’s hair looks good or bad is an opinion, not a fact.
Change can be scary. But it can be fun and exciting too.
What is it about change that scares us?
Is it the unknown of what might be?
Is it the fear that the new won’t be as good as the old?
What if it is better!?
Fate is already mapped out.. The journey is up to you. There is no right or wrong. There is only choice… If something isn’t working, choose to change it. There is no wrong choice…There is only choice.
If you don’t like your choice, change it…
Every time - Choose you…
Because changing hairstyles is what prompted this blog.........
I thought it would be fun to share some choices I have made over the years...................
and there have been MANY….